Thus asked the man who rescued my son and his friend. Our truck, a beast of a thing — 2500HD if you know trucks — was solidly stuck in soft snow up to its belly. The Kid and his friend, en route from school last night, decided to take the side road and it didn’t end well. This morning, some heavy duty road clearing equipment made a path so that the stranded monster could be extricated. Nothing a couple hundred dollars and a mild headache could’t fix.
This adventure was quick on the heels of a warning from our county sheriff, who found the Kid and others doing doughnuts in a parking lot. The snow was perfect, the Kid tells us, and my car is awesome at drifting. Sigh. I remember being in a group of kids who did doughnuts in the school parking lot, Tears for Fears beating through the speakers. Different music, different kids, same games.
We knew these days of less-than-optimal choices would come. So far, at least as far as We The Parents know, they have been fairly harmless. The Kid has appeared appropriately shaken up by the outcomes and we hope that some sort of lesson is sinking in.
This parenting thing starts out with lack of sleep and a lot of effort aimed at trying to keep the little being alive. It then tumbles through all the wondrous ups and downs of growing up. Tantrums, play dates, victories and defeats. Papers, exams, unfair teachers and unfair kids. Injuries and illnesses, hugs and pats. Then the child reaches this age of in between, and it’s more difficult than all that other stuff. At times he is the adult he will become. Insightful, wise, bright. Then a raging teenager emerges, angry at the world, himself, you and the dog. Then he picks up a long-forgotten gizmo and plays like a boy, a grin spreading across his face. Then he goes 4-wheeling on a two track after two weeks of steady snowfall . . .
The Kid asked me last night, after the rescue, at what point a male brain stops being stupid. Didn’t quite have an answer for that one. Does it ever? We’ve all read the studies about the developing male brain, and that it takes much, much longer to firm up than we once thought. Alas, although testosterone filled teenaged boys are more prone to it, you don’t have to be male or young to make a stupid decision. Any of us can leave our brain behind at any point.
And so, we tell him to try to think first, that it only takes a second or one wrong move for things to go upside down. We know our words are mostly bouncing off, but hope a few sink in. Mostly, we remind him that we love him, and wonder how any of us made it this far with all the dumb things we’ve done.